Have you ever been/are you in a romantic relationship?
I would leave it at that, but it’s not like I haven’t thought about what it would be like to be in a relationship. I’ll day dream about it for like two seconds and then get distracted by food. No, really. In class I was staring at my classmate thinking about maybe offering them a ride home, being nice, putting in some effort, but then I look down at the Tupperware they had on the desk and my brain goes, “Is that BANANA-BREAD?!”
I was much more excited about the prospect of food than trying to get to know them. I’m actually really disappointed in myself as a human being for that moment, but that’s pretty much what happens. I’m totally willing to elope with one of my coworkers because she gave me wine samples and an apple pie sample, but I have no clue who she is as a person. The wine and pie though were, in a word, amazing. I’m easily bribed by food, but for me to get that excited about a person hasn’t ever happened and that’s kind of what clued me in on being aro/ace. I feel like I should have maybe just stuck with the boring answer, but I promise I’m not an unloving android. I genuinely care about people in general, but dating and romance just really isn’t my thing. There’s nothing for me to get out of it emotionally and I would hate to mislead people who are looking for a romantic connection when I’m most definitely not.