Carnival of Aces February 2017: Resistance, Activism, & Self-Care

Carnival of Aces February 2017: Resistance, Activism, & Self-Care
[This is my submission for the Carnival of Aces February 2017 on the topic of “Resistance, Activism, & Self-Care” hosted this month by The Asexual Agenda (click link for more info on what a “blogging carnival” is and to see previous topics)]

Frustrated by recent political actions and inspired by the Women’s March, a wonderful group of folks came together to hold an 8 hour conference this past weekend called the Rise Up – Texas Action Event in Austin, TX to talk about current issues, ways to take action, and to exchanged some ideas and best practices for resistance and activism. I was able to attend this event so I’ll be sharing my 6 take-aways from this conference for my Carnival of Aces submission.

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Carnival of Aces Reminder

Hey folks! We’re about half way through the month of December and so far I only have one submission for the Carnival of Aces this month.

“A blogging carnival is an event in which various people blog around a single topic.  At the end of the carnival, a host blog collects all the links.  It’s a way of encouraging a variety of different voices, and a way to bring attention to blogs that would otherwise go under the radar.
A Carnival of Aces is a monthly blogging carnival centered on asexual and the asexual spectrum (gray-As, demisexuals, etc.).  Anyone can participate, but responses should deal with asexuality or the asexual spectrum, and they should relate to the month’s theme (which is announced each month by the host).  Responses should postdate the call for submissions.  Alternate forms of media besides blogs are also welcome as long as they deal with the prompt.”

This month’s topic is “Asexuality and Privacy” which is a topic near and dear to my heart. If you need help with some ideas or aren’t really sure what privacy means to you here are some videos you can watch about why privacy is a serious and sometimes scary topic:

Full Frontal with Samantha Bee: “The Russians aren’t the only ones watching you.”
TedTalk: Christopher Soghoian “Government surveillance — this is just the beginning”
TedTalk: Glenn Greenwald “Why privacy matters”
TedTalk: Andy Yen “Think your email’s private? Think again”

Feel free to watch one of the videos and just send me your thoughts on that or see the original Call for Submissions for ideas. It doesn’t have to be long, it doesn’t have to be written. Art, videos, poetry, are all acceptiable for submissions as long as they are relivant to the the topic. A lot of the privacy-topic videos I see mention how privacy is important to LGBT+ and minority groups, but nobody mentions asexuals specifically so I wanted to hear from you all and what you think.

Please have your submission in by December 31st for the link round up. You can leave a link in the comments below, submit via tumblr to http://a-cubedblog.tumblr.com/, or send me an email to lettredemarque(at)outlook(dot)com. If you sent something to the email and did not get a “thank you” reply, let me know. It means I probably didn’t get the message and I will try to find the lost email.

Good luck everyone!

Calling for Submissions: Carnival of Aces December 2016 “Asexuality and Privacy”

This is a call for submissions for the Carnival of Aces for the month of December, 2016: The topic I’ve selected this month is “Asexuality and Privacy”. (Last month’s Carnival was hosted by It’s An Ace Thing on the Topic of Relationship Anarchy. Click the link to see the Carnival Round up.)

Privacy is defined as: “the state or condition of being free from being observed or disturbed by other people”. Possible post topics for this prompt might include:

As an asexual, what is your general view on privacy or the right to privacy?
-Do you think privacy or the right to privacy is more important to you than it would be for another sexuality or for someone who identifies as straight?
-Since identifying as an asexual has your view of privacy changed compared to before?
-What do you consider private about your identity? Would you be comfortable disclosing your asexual orientation to a counselor or medical doctor; why or why not?
-Does identifying as an asexual play a role in your social media privacy settings and why do you think that is?
-Any other topics about asexuality and privacy.

If you wish to make a submission please post a link in the comments below or email the link to lettredemarque(at)outlook(dot)com. If you wish to make an anonymous submission you may also send your submission to the email address with your desired pseudonym. I look forward to reading everyone’s submissions; The deadline to make a submission will be December 31 by 8pm Eastern Time so I can get everything compiled before the New Year’s festivities.

Happy posting!

15 Day Aromantic Challenge: Day 15!!!

15 Day Aromantic Challenge: Day 15!!!

What do you like about being aromantic? What do you dislike?

Likes:

I like the fact that I’m different. As a writer my worst nightmare is being a cliche. Some cliches are okay, but I don’t want to be one. I like the independence that being aromantic gives me. I wasn’t like several people at my High School who married young and had two kids by the time they were old enough to drink. I like that I get to wear a lot of green and I like the look of the pride flag. I like that my aromanticism complements my asexuality. I like that I can feel platonic and family bonds more strongly. Comrade is one of my favorite emotions. I like that being aromantic has forced me to have a unique world view. I don’t have any romantic emotions or worries or entanglements to distract me from my goals in life. I think I can focus better and have more time to improve myself as a person. I like that I feel complete without missing “another half”.

Dislikes:

I dislike how lonely it can be sometime. I dislike being the third, fifth, or even sometimes the seventh wheel when I go out with my family and their significant others. I dislike that one of the first questions people ask when they try to get to know me is if I have a boyfriend/girlfriend. I want there to be more non-villain aromantics in media. I want there to be more aromantics in media period. I want there to be more representation for my demographic not just the crappy, “Oh, you just haven’t met the right one” or “Prince/Princess Charming is waiting for you, don’t give up!” blog posts. People try to empower single people and in the same breath say that single people just need to “hang in there!”, because there’s someone out there for everyone. I dislike how few aros there are. I don’t belong to an aromantic community or know too many aro blogs or resources. I basically just want more aro stuff and aros to hang with.

Final Thoughts:
I enjoyed doing the blogging challenges. Because of my school and work schedules I can’t do the deep and wordy blog posts that I want to do. The blogging challenges are a nice compromise since I can be as wordy or brief as I want or have the time and energy. I’ll probably continue to search for challenges to do until such time I can fully commit to the post type that I want. If anyone else is doing similar challenges I would like to hear about them in the comments section, Thank you!

Carnival of Aces Signal Boost!

Robin Enby has selected a wonderful topic for the Carnival of Aces September Prompt: The topic they selected is Asperger’s and Asexuality but the prompt is open to the whole autism spectrum. I won’t be making a submission myself, but I wanted to spread the word. I look forward to reading all the amazing entries in the round up. I believe this is an important topic so please continue to spread the word.

15 Day Aromantic Challenge

15 Day Aromantic Challenge

Since I’ve just finished up doing the 30 Genderqueer challenge, I want to keep the momentum going with some Aromantic Prompts. I found a 15 Day Aromantic challenge on tumblr and that will be the focus for the next two weeks. Yay!

Here are the challenge questions:

  1. What types of relationships do you most enjoy?
  2. Describe your best friendship(s).
  3. How would you describe your ideal relationship?
  4. Have you ever been/are you in a romantic relationship?
  5. Would you consider being in a romantic relationship or, if you have, in another?
  6. Are you more of a planner or fly by the seat of your pants kind of person?
  7. Do you like physical affection? If so what kind? (hugging/cuddling/holding hands/kissing/etc.)
  8. How do you feel about children? Do you want/have children?
  9. What are some of your hobbies?
  10. If you’re involved in fandoms, do you/how do you ship? (gen fic, romantic ships, friendships, queerplatonic ships, etc.)
  11. What’s your favorite fictional friendship
  12. Who is your favorite aromantic character?
  13. What is your ideal job/career?
  14. What is your favorite aromantic song?
  15. What do you like about being aromantic? What do you dislike?

30 Day Gender Queer Challenge Prompts

30 Day Gender Queer Challenge:

Prompts provided by genderqeerid.com http://genderqueerid.com/post/19662297051/30-day-genderqueer-challenge

Now that the Summer Semester is almost over I’m trying to get back into some good writing habits and will be working off of prompts instead of agonizing over an original post idea. Hopefully when the Fall Semester comes I’ll be able get back into a regular posting pattern.

In the meantime, I’ll be doing the 30 Day Gender Queer Challenge prompts for the next 30 days, Whoo!

1) Do you use any other terms to define or explain your gender or lack of gender?

2) How did you grow up with your gender or lack of gender?

3) What’s your favorite ways of upsetting gender roles (i.e. genderbending/genderfucking/etc…

4) Name some queer heroes, influences, or crushes you’ve had.

5) Dysphoria and how you manage it.

6) When did you realize you were Genderqueer?

7) What are your favorite physical features of yourself?

8) An unpopular or unsure opinion about the GSM community?

9) What have you done or plan to do to socially transition? (i.e. pronouns, name, coming out, etc.)

10) Are you taking any steps to physically transition?

11) Describe your first experience with a GSM organization or event.

12) Discuss your relationship with the term transgender

13) How has your family taken it or how might they take it?

14) Are you part of the Gender and Sexuality Minority community?

15) How do you deal with gendered things? Clothes shopping, bathrooms, forms, etc.

16) Name some media you connect with queerly

17) How do you, or would you, deal with being misgendered?

18) How does your gender factor in to your future plans?

19) What terms in the cisgender, GSM, or trans* community are problematic?

20) Have you faced any problems or gone through any changes regarding religion?

21) How has your relationship with yourself been affected since you realized you were Genderqueer?

22) What is your sexual and romantic orientations? Are they affected by your gender?

23) Do you feel comfortable answering questions about your gender to friends? Acquaintances? Strangers?

24) How has your relationship with the cisgender people in your life changed?

25) Your first queer crush or relationship

26) Discuss how your clothes do or don’t reflect your gender

27) Write a poem about being Genderqueer. (if you struggle, try a haiku, acrostic poem with your name, or just a stream of consciousness paragraph)

28) Who are some people in your life, on or offline, who make your life better? Your relationship doesn’t have to be related to queerness.

29) Some positive Genderqueer experiences

30) What does Genderqueer mean to you?

31) Bonus! (Think of your own prompt or something that was missed on the list!)